Join me for a discussion of my book at Scrawl Books on October 15

Please join me at an upcoming event at Scrawl Books at the Reston Town Center (Reston, Virginia) on Sunday, October 15th from 4-6. I will be discussing my journey and book. It’s a great way to learn more about how you can overcome the Shoulds that get in your way of living the life you want. It’s also an opportunity to support independent book stores!

Please help me spread the word about this event. I am particularly passionate about connecting with young people so they can realize their full potential by learning these skills early in life. If you know of any teenagers, college students, or those just starting in their careers who are looking for help in discovering who they are and what they want …. or if you know of teachers or others who work with this age group and may be looking for another tool to help them help others, please pass this on to them.

Thank you!


Come here Karen See speak at the Virginia Women’s Business Conference on December 2, 2016

Join an amazing group of professional women as they gather at the Lansdowne Resort and Spa in Northern Virginia to discover the tools for success, make strategic business connections and leave feeling empowered and inspired to take action.

The conference offers multiple tracks as well as workshops and networking opportunities. I will be participating in a panel on “Rethinking the Work-Life Equation.”

For more information, go to: Virginia Women’s Business Conference

Contact me at if you want to attend, and I can provide you with a promotion code that will give you $40 off the registration fee.

Hope to see you there!

Some tips for living a happier life

While my book is full of advice for overcoming your shoulds and learning to live the life you want… and it is a very quick read (less than two hours!), sometimes we need some quick tips to get us started…. so, check out my article on Time’s Motto on-line platform and start taking steps TODAY to live a life that is true to who you are and what you want!



Welcome to the website for my book: The Should Syndrome: Break Free and Start Living the Life You Want.

My goal in writing this book is to help people realize their potential by discovering and embracing their true selves and learning how to overcome the expectations that get in the way of living the lives they want. Over my 35 years of work experience, I have seen too many people hold themselves back. They are afraid to take risks and afraid to upset the status quo. So rather than fully utilizing their unique talents and gifts, these people spend their lives attempting to fit in, seeking approval and praise from others, and never quite feeling satisfied.

I have been there myself. Twenty years ago, I was on the fast track in a large technology consulting firm. Yet I wasn’t enjoying my success. I felt too much pressure, and I struggled to find balance. I finally decided to take time off to figure out once and for all what I wanted to do and how to reduce the stress in my life. I read countless books and articles, and I soon realized that what was getting in my way were the expectations I had about who I should be and what I should do. I named this condition the Should Syndrome and began writing articles, speaking at various events, and teaching workshops on how to overcome one’s Shoulds. More importantly, I worked on understanding and overcoming my own Shoulds.

Since that time, I’ve been learning to live the life I want. I’ve gotten to know and like myself, and I’ve learned to trust that I will make choices that are right for me.

Breaking through the obstacles that prevent us from tapping into our full potential is a lifelong endeavor. We learn, we grow, and we learn some more. And while the steps are simple, the process of discovery and change is complex.

I hope this book helps you learn about yourself and what you can do to unleash your potential and begin living the life you want. We all deserve that.

After all, whose life is it anyway?